Just Have A Good Cry (Reprint)
By Steve_in_KC on August 30, 2009 at 10:01 PM in Current Affairs, Humor
I wrote this piece in a moment of prescience about six months ago, only a month after the Coronation Inauguration of our current White House Resident. Even then, while most of America still found him enchanting, which is to say “while they were still hypnotized,” I knew the day would come when the Obots would start waking up and wondering, “OMG! What the hell have we done?”
I imagined it would be that kind of feeling you get when the honeymoon is over, when you wake up next to the person you have just pledged your life to, and see a total stranger… and it’s someone you don’t like anymore. So I imagined what one might say to a friend or family-member when she realized she had made a fool of herself over some nogoodnik.
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Awww. Poor baby. There, there. It’s going to be OK.
So the guy you thought was Mr. Wonderful turns out to be Mr. Disappointment. He’s let you down in so many ways. You thought he would change your life for the better, and now you wish you’d taken time to get to know him before making that big commitment. It’s called “vetting.”
After your previous long and painful relationship, you had a chance to do it right this time, and you blew it. You made a bad choice while you were on the rebound, and now you’re stuck with him.
We tried to warn you, but you wouldn’t listen.
Rebound relationships are usually doomed from the start. You’re so happy to be free of the old one, you rush into the next with your hair on fire.
You start thinking how all the happiness you’ve been missing is just around the corner, in the person of that attractive stranger you hope to meet real soon.
Before you know it, you’re making the rounds, asking friends for introductions, looking for love. Having just ended a bad relationship, you are a bit vulnerable, whether you realize it or not. You find yourself willing, even eager, to believe in magic again.
So, as it usually happens, along comes someone that sweeps you off your feet. Someone who seems really exciting and not at all like The Monster you just got out of your life. This person is different! This person could be The One! Your Savior!
It’s called “infatuation.” You are chemically ready to form a new partnership with a new love. It’s over-powering! It’s so fun! So exciting! So… insane!
You don’t even KNOW this person, and yet there you are, giving all you have to a virtual stranger, swept up in the “newness” of it. You keep saying, “it’s never felt like this before! This must be true love!”
“I feel like I’ve known you my whole life!” you exclaim passionately. Or perhaps it’s, “I feel like we were meant to be together! You are the one I’ve been waiting for!”
You are so excited, you can’t stop talking about your new love to all your friends. While they may share your happiness, inside they are trying to think how to tell you to slow the hell down!
They may know something about this person that you don’t, or maybe they just think you are not thinking clearly. They try to warn you to be careful. Slow down. Think it through. What do you really know about him?
And how do you respond to this caution from your friends? Not well!
You become defensive and paranoid. You think it’s ridiculous anyone would question your judgment.
“Why are you against me finally being happy? Why can’t you see how wonderful we are together?”
Your friends may ask if you have checked up on this person, if you have done any background investigating, or if you have some references to vouch for this stranger. The nerve of these people!!
You are willing to defend this stranger with your life. You are ready to dump lifetime friendships for this person who has bowled you over with giddy excitement. Whatever New Love says is the ultimate truth!
“And besides, all his friends are so cool! And they all think we are perfect together! So who needs fair-weather friends who can’t support my decisions and accept that I am now a better person and in a better place than before? Who needs you?!”
They try to reason with you, but to no avail. You are already over the edge. You are convinced this is it!
Now that you are committed to New Love, your Old Love is now The Enemy, along with all the old mutual friends! And the in-laws! And the people at your old hang-outs, and all your old friends who don’t enthusiastically support your new obsession. So you shut them out, every one of them.
Your new life now established, it’s time to settle down again and just be a couple.
Now for the first wavelets of doubt.
First, he disses your family and friends, more and more. He seems to care nothing about your life outside of him. He’s always needing money. You begin to wonder about the whole thing, and start to question him about a few things in particular.
Who was that on the phone? Why do you hide your email?
What happened to the money I had hidden in the cookie jar? What do you mean, “our” money?
Why can’t we go out this weekend? You have other plans? With who?
Are you lying to me? I can’t believe this! I gave up my whole life for you, and now you lie to me!
Is that even your real name? I feel like I don’t even know you anymore!
You told me when we met that you were going to do all these things, but now you’re saying something completely different! Whatever happened to our plans? Why are you turning away from me? Don’t you even care what I think anymore?
The Rebound Relationship everyone warned you about came into your life when you wanted someone different to change your life, to give you hope for something magical, to transform your life from the dreary to the new and exciting. And now, POOF! It’s over. And you are sadder, but wiser.
And your life has changed, all right. New Love has already maxed out your credit cards. Your bank account is empty. Mr. Wonderful is even bad-mouthing you while spending your money, and laughing at you because you were so gullible.
And your old friends, who tried so hard to warn you? Most of them will take you back, if you show a little remorse for treating them badly, and show that you have come back to your senses.
But for now, just have a good cry. There, there. It’ll be OK.
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Obot love song, circa Jan. 2009
Obot out-of-love song, circa Nov. 2009
(from “Hurt” by Timi Yuro)
…but only if you pick yourself up; learn from those of us on the front lines who have already figured out how this man was able to sneak into the White House; and atone for earlier supporting him by helping us to get him out.
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I think the kiddies might be able to relate to Jenny Owen Youngs song, “What the Fuck Was I Thinking?”
Sorry, I don’t usually use the F word but ya know…appropriate and all…
Does any one personally know of some one who supported and voted for Obama who now regrets their decision?
I’m from a red state and even though Obama received quiet a few votes, almost no one here is admitting they had been hoodwinked by Obama and actually voted for him. Those few souls who proclaimed their love and vote for Obama are still singing his praises and still think the rest of us are telling lies about him.
my brother and his wife and their adult children bought the whole hopey, changey story. I tried to tell them things about Obama and they would just say, “Oh, really?” and then ignore me. They voted for him, even though I told them he was a con artist and I would not ever vote for a man like him no matter what party he was in! A few months ago, my brother was disgusted with the bailouts and he kind of cringed when he told me he wished somebody, anybody would do something to help the average people. Obama should do something! I replied, “if you think Obama cares about the average person, you have not been paying attention. Don’t count on Obama helping anyone, but his rich friends. This past Friday they said that friends of theirs were now telling them all kinds of scary things about Obama and no one they know can stand the man. They all want him out. I told them that this was what I’d been talking about all last year. Then I asked them if they knew much about Rezko. They had heard the name from me, but didn’t get what the deal was. I told them all about it and how the trial went on in Chicago while the primary was going and how I got so scared thinking it would be on the news for all to hear and then…nothing! It scared me. Then I asked them how they think we can survive if no one is trying to create jobs. They both were white as a sheet when I left! They know that nothing gets better until jobs get created and it suddenly hit them, WHY, isn’t he creating jobs? They want him out right now!
Stolemycountry, that is refreshing that those family members and their friends are recognizing the truth finally.
Sure hope they will pitch in and help defeat Obama and his cronies.
There is hope for people who admit they made a wrong choice. I was one of those people, I voted for Carter ONCE. Have voted republican every since. Of course becoming a small business owner and writing out my first payroll check ended my romance with the democratic party.
However if the repubs don’t get a backbone soon, I’m about ready to bail on them too. I’m about to become a one issue voter. The issue is TERM LIMITS for the federal legislators and retirement age for the SCOTUS.
Hey, my Obot sister said a few weeks ago she’s 30% disapointed in Obama. Then spouted off plenty of MSM, DailyKos and HuffPo talking points . She’s upset with Whole Foods CEO John Mackey and his idea of health reform and took glee in telling me some employees say “they’re cutting back benefits so see his plan isn’t so good”. She said she’s boycotting them. She also hates Glen Beck - feels he and Sarah Palin are telling lies and believes free speach only extends as far as it’s not inflammatory. In other words as long as it’s not in opposition to her beliefs. So calling Obama a racist? Ohhhh bad and certainly not true. Death Panels? Oh, inflammatory and false. Though, my sister says she thinks Bush might be fun to socialize with in a goofy sort of way and would love to have a drink with Sarah Palin who she thinks is pretty charming. She just hates her policies. It’s very telling that my sister really likes how Palin looks and dresses. For that reason alone, Palin gets points. If she’d just drop the religious crap, go moderate, let professionals write her speeches so they could be inspirational and coherent, my sister could maybe see supporting her for some position. Not president or course, but maybe a cabinet position or something like that.
So never fear, true Obots are not swayed yet and I expect never will be.
I once heard someone say ” If a person is persuaded against their will they will be unpersuaded still”.
Found that out when a dear friend of mine went along with the information I had researched and shared with her. Then much latter she said she was in complete and total disagreement with everything I had said but only pretended to agree because she liked me as a friend. She is still a friend but I now know her limits and will not enter into that topic in our conversations. She was persuaded against her will and is unpersuaded still.
Term limits for SCOTUS, too. I don’t really see why anyone should get a lifetime appointment for any job. Give others a chance and when they are bored with their jobs it is time to leave. After a while, when people do something for too long, they can get careless or wreckless with their duties. SCOTUS are human, too (maybe-lol).
the only way to get obama out is by voting in as many republicans as possible in the 2010 election. (i am not a republican but no longer a member of this particular democratic party ) at least that way if they are not willing to impeach him , at least they can stop him from giving away the store..or whats left of it. once the repubs control the house and senate, we can then start calling for impeachment. they just might be happy to oblige.
Matthew, the GOP should try to stay out of the impeachment business because the last time they used it too casually and demeaned the seriousness of impeachment. They should have NEVER impeached Clinton. A public statement of disapproval for his lying under oath would have been enough.
That does not mean that Obama does not deserve it but I would rather see him voted out of office than to give the obots more of a reason to close ranks and worship him.
I am waiting for all my friends, relatives and co-workers (Obama zealouts here in Illinois) to cry about having voted for him. I lost many friends last year since I did not fall for Mr. Obama’s sweet smile and lying ways. I did meet an old friend over the weekend who lived in Indiana and had voted for O. In fact, they had been very proud that Indiana went “blue” for the first time last and that their support helped to bring Mr. Hope and Change into office.
My friend took me aside and quietly admitted he was very disappointed in O. and surprised that he has not done anything since getting into office. We discussed Hillary and I got him to admit that Hillary was extremely competent and he did agree that perhaps she would have been a better choice. As much as I would like to have said “I TOLD YOU SO” all I could do is feel sad, very sad, that so many were duped by The Chosen One.
I would love to hear from my ex boyfriend. Election’08 did us in. He was a bot and I went 110% McCain/Palin after Hillary was out. He could not for the life of him understand how I could support McCain and Palin over Obamessiah. We hung in there until a few weeks post election, but I think he became afraid that I would soon say, “I told you so” and so he broke up with me stating, “The fact that you voted for McCain tells me that you don’t care about people or the world and that you don’t have a generous heart!” I was crushed. Since he clearly didn’t know me and my heart after 3 years, I did move on and we haven’t spoken or emailed since that last conversation. I know he and his family have to despise much of what Obama is doing by now. Cash for clunkers would have negatively impacted his job. His parents were very opposed to universal health care always! I am sure he knows I was right, as Obama has turned out to be what I thought he would. I vetted the guy, my ex would not. Although I would not go back to someone so liberal (I can no longer reason with the lacking common sense), I still would love to get an apology email someday. I doubt I will though.
Stolemycountry, I am so sad to hear that this happened to you. Maybe some day some small attempt may happen but from my 50 plus years I have observed that there are some people who are not able to admit they were wrong and could never apologize.
This is especially hard within a family. One of my in-laws can really deliver the dressing down on someone she is angry at and will never apologize but will slowly, over time, begin to include that person back into her life like nothing ever happened.
The sad part is that she went off like this on her big brother, my husband, and he has never really trusted her since. It’s like something broke between them and without an apology it will not become unbroken.
Yep. The apology thing does matter.
I forgot to add that he broke up with me after his guy won! 3 weeks after! Then he slammed me for voting for McCain. Made no sense to me. he should have been thrilled he won!
Liberals- so open minded that their brains have fallen out!
LOL!
We have a sympatico experience. Heck, my old boyfriend from 40 years ago ranted and insulted me over this piece of fecal material. I doubt he’d ever change his mind, probably is hoping for socialism and would never apologize even if he knew he was wrong. I had no idea there was a need to separate the wheat from the chaff…but that’s what happened.
Last week, I had an old friend and her adult daughter over to celebrate the mother’s birthday. I had given them a wide berth for a while and finally just stopped arguing politics with them. But they started it…they are like a tape recording of MSNBC; Oh! Can’t stand Beck, Oh! Can’t stand Palin…No death panels, she’s stupid…on and on. Everyone should be put on Medicare and be like the VA. No, they don’t relate having no real estate sales or so many people they know being out of work to the choice they made…They even had the gall to say…he’s only been in for 6 mos and Bush, inherited, he’ll turn it around…blah, blah, blah. So who’s stupid? Programed bots.
I wised them up and told them unless they’ve read the bill they don’t know that Sarah is right. After one of them brought up the WWII brother’s care with VA and how he never had to pay…I suggested they check out the 52 page VA pamphlet where they tell our selfless warriors to consider one more sacrifice by refusing to take treatment and not continue to burden their family…among other “suggestions” and did that sound like Death Panels to them? Also asked them if they thought the 500billion cut in Medicare would bring rationing for seniors in order to include illegal aliens (that is, their inclusion after Obama’s planned amnesty next year)? They were even clueless to his Czars! What? That sounds like Communism. Well, they said, it not me.
I don’t know. Maybe the Martini’s kicked in but they shut up after that.
That sounds like a bot. After 5/31/08 we would get into very heated debates, so we agreed not to bring up politics. Well, I was able to hold my tongue 95% of the time, but he had to bring it up every time! Then he would say, you brought it up! I would remind him how we got on the subject and he’d so, Oh, I guess I did bring it up. sheesh! I could never date a bot. Not even one date would work. I’ve done some online dating and bots don’t even make it through a phone call, if they get past the email vetting. haha. I need to put a disclaimer on my emails from now on, *this is a bot free zone* *all bots banished to the ends of the earth*
roflmbo! that’s too good!
My obot family and friends are in deep denial. They see things are not turning around, but still refuse to admit to themselves that they were bamboozled.
Mostly, they are trying to ignore politics altogether or look the other way rather than see the truth that is out there.
If I bring up anything about O in a negative light, their eyes glaze over and they close their ears.
The Obots that I know still support him and his policies because they are not paying attention…on purpose.
They just can’t face being so wrong.
Sad and pathetic.
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LMAO
an OBOT MUST READ!!
How the heck do I post this on my facebook page?